by Rhea Beaudry
You have probably read books on the five love languages and tried to figure out which is your love language for giving and receiving love. Gift giving, physical touch, acts of service, time spent…These are some of the ways we have to share our love with others. When we find that special tendency and preference we have to communicate our deep love, it is amazing to watch that love grow as it is given and received.
What is God’s love language? In one word, God’s love language is LOVE.
I am always so blessed when Pastor Peggy gives me the opportunity to share the week’s message here at The Spiritual Family. Usually I pray and seek God, and He gives me a special word to share. This week, I did not write a message. I feel led to share a treasure with you from one of my favorite teachers, Graham Cooke. My life is full right now with ministry to our special Russian grandkids. I have been in need of receiving from the Lord in order to have the strength to carry out the work; and so I have turned to Graham Cooke’s writings, always a source of blessing and inspiration. God has touched me through this book, and I am quoting a chapter for your enjoyment and spiritual feeding.
GOD’S LANGUAGE IS LOVE
God adores us because He wants our adoration. God loves us because He wants our love. God speaks to us by His love. This is the language we need to hear from the Lord so that we can speak it back to Him. It’s a glorious cycle—God takes the initiative by loving us, and we return that love to Him. God can say nothing without using this language of love.
What is true in the natural is also true by the Spirit. Isaiah described this beautifully in 55:9-11 (NASB):
For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways And My thoughts than your thoughts.
For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven, And do not return there without watering the earth And making it bear and sprout, And furnishing seed to the sower and bread to the eater;
So will My word be which goes forth from My mouth; It will not return to Me empty, Without accomplishing what I desire, And without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it.
God’s promise is as inevitable as rain falling, His words water our lives making us fruitful and productive. We return this blessing through our words of praise and thanksgiving, our testimony and witness to His Nature and also by our actions that may bring glory to the Lord.
James put it a different way, but it is still the same theme:
Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow. In the exercise of His will He brought us forth by the word of truth, so that we would be a kind of first fruits among His creatures. (James 1:17-18 NASB)
Everything that is good and right comes from a Father who never changes. It is His consistency and faithfulness that is the bedrock of our ability to receive. It simply does not depend upon us! He is the origin, the cause, the motive and the source of every gift. It will always be this way. He is the Beginning and the Ending for all of us, for all time. His passion is to make each of us a joyful carrier of His word through His promises so that we may enjoy the certainty of our receiving His gifts and goodness. Think of it: we are the first fruits of His huge desire to have a people represent His Excellence. Our role in the Earth is to proclaim the fact of God’s outstanding goodness by living the life of promise that He has set aside for us. All God’s promises are yes! And amen! in Christ Jesus.
Paul put it this way in his letter to the church in Rome:
…who has first given to Him that it might be paid back to Him again? For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be the glory forever. Amen. (Romans 11:35-36 NASB)
It is not possible for us to initiate anything with God. Paul asks who has ever given to God first. God initiates, we respond by receiving and then we give back to God the very thing He gave us in the first place. From, through and to Him are all things. Everything He wants from us He gives to us.
This is amazing, wonderful, outrageous and mind-boggling stuff! This means that when the Holy Spirit convicts me of something, He is also relaying the Father’s willingness to supply what I lack. Therefore:
CONVICTION REGARDING OUR INABILITY TO PRAY ALSO RELEASED THE PROMISE THAT HE WILL HELP US.
STRUGGLING WITH UNCLEAN THOUGHTS? CONVICTION ALSO BRINGS WITH IT THE PROMISE OF PURIT Y.
PROBLEMS WITH DOUBT, UNBELIEF? WITH CONVICTION THE LORD SEEKS TO INITIATE FAITH.
Get the message? The promise releases the gift. Conviction seeks to re-establish the divine order. The Holy Spirit points out our need and the provision at the same time. Conviction restores us to being open to the goodness of God. From Him, through Him and to Him are all things…marvelous.
Each of us must see ourselves in that cycle in the manner that the Father has declared. To live as part of His cycle of life we must understand that all of His language to us is full of promise to us. He delights to speak to us and is blessed by our expectancy.
The tragedy of modern Christianity is that much of it is performance-oriented. We think we have to do something to get something from God. “God can’t possibly like me because I’m not doing anything,” we say. “God can’t love me, I don’t pray enough. I don’t give enough. I don’t worship enough. I don’t read enough.” But how much is actually enough? We shouldn’t be constantly quantifying “enough,” but we should be serving God because He loves us. Present-day Christians are quick to fall into the same trap Martha did in Luke 10, thinking that we have to prove ourselves worthy of a relationship with Jesus. Being Mary, and basking in Jesus’ love, is a severe challenge for us.
The language of love is something we must all learn. We have to understand how God sees us, so that we can see Him more clearly. God loves us and, because He loves us, we want to talk to Him. Everything we can give to God comes from Him in the first place. It begins and ends with God, because intimacy is a cycle.
In the natural world, we see many examples of this type of cycle. Water falls from the sky, and returns to the heavens by the process of evaporation. The moon does not generate its own light, but reflects the light of the sun in the night sky. The image in a mirror is nothing more than a reflection of the actual object. Likewise, our love for God is a reflection of His love for us. Love begins and ends with God.
We cannot love God on our own initiative, but we can give back that which He has bestowed on us. When the Father of Lights gives us a gift that touches our heart, it does something inside of us. We end up returning to God the very thing He has given us. To love God, we must be loved by God. It’s a wonderful thing to go through our entire lives being loved by God. We are condemned to be loved by Him forever. We can’t escape it. We have no alternative but to put up with it: this is who God is.
Parents know an example of this principle: when our children were growing up, and our birthday was approaching, most of us gave them money to buy us a present. How do we know how to do this? It is in our DNA. God is the same way; His love is the currency He gives us so that we can love Him more fully. He gives to us the very thing He wants from us!
from “The Language of Promise”
C. 2015. Graham Cooke. http://www.brilliantbookhouse.com
Let’s pray together: Lord we thank You that You first loved us. We, in ourselves, are incapable of loving You in the manner in which You are worthy to be loved; but You give the promise that we can do all things through Christ Who strengthens us. We choose together to accept Your enabling gift, to let it soak and percolate all through our beings, and to release it back to You. We trust that this very day, You will open up opportunity to share our gifts with others who cross our paths. We love You Lord. In Jesus’ name, AMEN.